Breaking up with a girl doesn't mean you've lost her completely. There is still a chance to get her back. It’s just that you need to act as competently as possible.
We offer you 10 steps that can really help you get your loved one back.
It is important to understand that not all relationships can be restored. And the reasons for parting are different. If we are not talking about cheating and betrayal, that is, the girl wants to be with you, but does not understand this, then it's time to act.
- Don't blame her for everything. Often people try to blame each other for breaking up. They get emotional, exchange pleasantries and so on. Stay a man until the end. Both are to blame. Even if she doesn't admit it yet;
- Accept her decision to break up. If she said she wants to break up, just go along with that decision. But here one nuance is important. Say that you value the relationship, but respect her decision. As a result, she sees that you need her, but you are not going to humiliate yourself in front of her;
- Take time to pause. You need to think, take a break, do not communicate at the same time. Time puts everything in its place. Just remember that everyone's pause is different. For some, a week is enough. And someone will need 2-3 months. Be patient. It is possible that she will make the first move;
- Think about why you broke up. Before returning the girl, think about whether you need to do this at all. Find out the reason for the break. Assess the situation. Finding a reason is the basis for resuming a relationship. Otherwise, you can converge and scatter countless times. And in the end, none of you will be happy;
- Work on yourself. It is important not only to return the girl, but also to stay with her. She must want it. And if you do not improve, repeat the same mistakes and step on the same rake, this will not give the desired result. Analyze your model of behavior, attitude towards your beloved. Perhaps you made mistakes, did not listen to her and did not listen to what she said and asked. Few compliments, rude communication. Only mistakes should be objective, not invented by her;
- Keep developing. Self-improvement is the path to strong and lasting relationships. Therefore, spend the pause period on something useful. It can be reading books, going to the gym, updating your wardrobe, changing your image, and so on;
- Provoke jealousy. After the breakup, she will probably continue to follow you. Take advantage of this. Show that you are not so bad. You communicate with friends, girls. It is possible that she, having seen all this, will rush to return you to herself as soon as possible. Just don't cheat and date others;
- Tell me about your changes. Write to her, call her. Tell me that you understand everything and are ready to improve, change;
- Prove that you have changed. Just talk a little. You still need to prove it. Offer to meet to prove it. If she does not want to meet, then guard her, appear with a bouquet of flowers. Be assertive but not intrusive;
- Start from scratch. Yes, the previous attempt ended in failure, and you broke up. But there are feelings for each other. And so there is a reason to try everything from the beginning.
Just remember. If the feelings are not mutual, then it’s clearly not worth wasting your time, energy and emotions on a girl who doesn’t love you and obviously doesn’t want to be with you.
