Even the strongest relationships can fall apart. Absolutely everyone quarrels. And that's okay. In a healthy relationship, fighting is a process of rubbing against each other. So a stronger bond is built in a couple, character is known and not only.
That is, a quarrel should also be perceived as a way to even improve relations. No matter how strange these may sound.
The problem is that after a quarrel, it can be difficult to make peace. Here you need to know how to act correctly, what to say and how to react. Otherwise, a quarrel can really end in a final break.
To reconcile with your loved one, heed the following tips.
Give each other time
Immediately after a quarrel, people often begin to straight away sort things out, shout, swear. This is categorically wrong.
After a quarrel, you need to wait, be patient. Go out for a walk, relax, cool down. On a sober head it will be easier to assess the situation, to give a real assessment of what is happening. Perhaps the reason for the quarrel will turn out to be a trifle compared to the risk of parting with your soulmate.
Each person in a couple has an opinion. Respect him.
How much time it takes depends on the individual. Some leave within a couple of hours. Others need at least a few days.
Listen to each other, apologize and don't look for someone to blame
Dialogue is very important in reconciliation. Talk to each other. Listen carefully to the position of each.
If you want to make peace, don't blame each other for the quarrel. Don't look for the extreme. On the contrary, it is necessary to come to general conclusions. Admit they were wrong, they made a mistake. Apologies must be mutual. For the words spoken or the actions taken during the quarrel.
Learn to speak. It is important. Relationships will not last long without an established dialogue.
Don't take too long to sort things out
The longer the quarrel continues, the deeper you find yourself in this swamp of misunderstanding, mutual recriminations and accusations. Otherwise, you can completely drown. It will be impossible to save such a relationship.
Once both people are ready to deal with the problem, start rebuilding the relationship. But these weeks of silence do not lead to anything good.
Do not interfere with friends and relatives
The biggest mistake when sorting out a relationship is to involve friends and relatives. Of course they are on your side. It's just not a fact that their advice will make you better.
In addition, by entangling mutual friends and acquaintances here, you risk ruining your relationship with them. You make peace with your significant other. But he or she will no longer want to communicate with your friends, because in difficult times they decided to support one of the parties.
Work on relationships
At the beginning of a relationship, quarrels are practically absent. Then the grinding phase begins. This is normal for any couple.
But try to work on your relationship, work on your mistakes.
There is a codeword method. This is a word or phrase that a couple says when the conflict goes too far. When pronouncing it, you need to stop, exhale and think about the situation. The method perfectly helps to avoid quarrels over trifles.
Be open about your feelings
There must be a reason for a quarrel. Otherwise, the conflict would not have unleashed between two lovers or loving people.
But it's not enough just to make peace. It is important to make it clear to the guy or girl why you reacted this way to certain words, actions, situations. Express your dissatisfaction. But not on emotions. But constructively and in a calm tone. Make it clear what's bothering you and what you don't want to face in the relationship.
This is exactly what adults do. No need to be afraid of quarrels and disagreements. But to be able to properly reconcile and find an approach to each other is necessary. Especially if you have big plans for this person, you want to create a strong family and an absolutely healthy relationship.
