At the beginning of a relationship, partners tend to idealize each other. Loving hearts, shrouded in a sweet fog, in anticipation of a long-awaited meeting, concentrate on their own experiences and pleasant feelings, stubbornly ignoring shortcomings and possible disagreements. During such a period, it seems as if nothing in the world is capable of sowing enmity between the newly minted mental twins. However, this is an illusion.
Prolonged stay in such a state only increases self-deception and brings the inevitable parting closer. In order not to become a victim of short-term intrigues and banal passions, it is necessary to observe the behavior of a partner more, pay attention to traits of behavior that are atypical for him, analyze words and deeds. Otherwise, the frivolous attitude of an absent-minded lover can lead to interaction with the abuser and the creation of a toxic relationship.
Sudden changes in behavioral habits and unreasonable insults – the first warning signs of a codependent relationship
A characteristic feature of a person prone to co-dependent relationships is emotional instability. A partner can express a wide range of feelings that goes far beyond the familiar emotional palette of a lover. It can be rudeness, discontent, aggression – everything that replaced the recent tenderness and awe. With such a person, it’s like being on a powder keg – at any moment something unpredictable can happen. This type of relationship is pretty exhausting. Being in constant tension, partners begin to quarrel more often and move away from each other.
Disharmonious interaction also exacerbates the partner's constant desire to impose a sense of guilt, as if to shift responsibility for troubles and misunderstandings onto another person. Wine – this is a wonderful way of manipulation, through which it is easy to control the actions and morale of your other half. Such relationships can be characterized not as "man-man", but "man-property".
Frequent jealousy and suspicion – this is an indicator of a partner’s low self-esteem and lack of confidence, first of all, in himself
Unfounded accusations and the imposition of guilt can often be accompanied by pathological jealousy and constant reproaches. Such distrust on the part of a partner can provoke increased feelings of guilt and lead codependent relationships into a blind alley.
In an unhealthy desire to merge with his other half, leaving her no right to personal space, a partner may begin to show jealousy not only for the people around him, but also for his favorite activities, hobbies, and work. Such a position is extremely destructive for both sides. It will certainly lead to a rapid break in relations.
Codependent relationships – is there a way out?
A person can change his life views and attitudes in the process of life, but he cannot change his personal qualities, which are mostly innate. That is why sometimes you should not have false hopes and try to change your partner. It's impossible. A person can suppress unwanted features for a while, hide them, but at some point they will definitely pour out with renewed vigor.
Highlights – it is not to be afraid to talk, to strive to make contact in any situation. Only by directly expressing your feelings and fears, you can hope for a healthy and fruitful dialogue. And perhaps the other half will be ready to hear them.
