The word "abuse" has become incredibly popular lately. But there is nothing good in this. Abuse in a relationship between a man and a woman means there are serious problems.
Therefore, you need to understand this concept, as well as talk about the characteristic features.
What is it
The word abuse is commonly understood as a manifestation of psychological and sometimes physical violence in a relationship. It manifests itself both in young couples and in already formed families.
As for the abuser, here we are talking about a person who ignores the opinion of his partner, forcing him to actions and deeds that are contrary to the desires of the second person. In other words, the partner should only do what the abuser says. He is not interested in a different opinion.
He achieves his goals through violent (psychological and physical) actions.
It is unlikely that anyone would want to start a relationship with such a person.
How to recognize early on
At the beginning of a relationship, a person may not show his inclinations to psychological violence, coercion to anything. But even in the initial stages of dating, certain signs may already appear. We will tell about them.
If you do not want to be abused and do not associate your life with a potential abuser, pay attention to the following signs.
- Insists on building relationships quickly, and does not give the partner time to think;
- Shows excessive jealousy and possessiveness;
- Constantly controls, interrogates, is interested in your every step;
- Builds illusions about perfect couples;
- Requires the immediate fulfillment of all his desires;
- Waiting for the partner to understand him without words;
- Isolates the soulmate from communication with friends, relatives;
- Accuses acquaintances and relatives of the partner of all sins;
- May deprive the phone, car, demand to leave work;
- All problems and mistakes are always someone else's fault, but not him;
- He accuses his soulmate of the fact that because of her everything is bad for him, he is hurt and uncomfortable;
- Shows clear signs of hypersensitivity. He is easily offended and offended;
- He gets excited, pissed off, pissed off for the slightest reason, although there is no real reason for this. The reason is invented, the problem is banal, which is easy and simple to solve;
- He is often rude to his own children and animals. Punishes for nothing. Teases himself, provoking tears in children;
- Does not consider rape something terrible and unacceptable. This topic generates clear interest and excitement;
- Actively mocks partner. Especially verbally. Shouts, criticizes, speaks rudely. Can humiliate, insult, come up with offensive nicknames;
- Believes that there are purely feminine and masculine responsibilities in relationships. In his opinion, a woman is needed only for service, cooking and washing. I am sure that the main function is to give birth to children;
- Is of the opinion that a woman does not need to go anywhere. Therefore, buying clothes and a beautiful evening dress is a waste of money. At the same time, he never spares money for his whims;
- Suddenly changes in mood. Sometimes in seconds;
- In the past, he beat his soulmate, which a new passion can admit to. But she will definitely add that she herself was to blame, provoked him;
- It is quite normal for him to threaten death, promise to kill, wring his neck, and so on.
Oddly enough, but in the overwhelming majority of cases, it is men who act as abusers. Female abusers are much less common. Moreover, this list of signs is also suitable for them.
