Both a man can change his woman, and a woman can change her man. Almost at any age.
Change is a terrible word for many. Often means a sentence to further relationships. But sometimes after the betrayal, the relationship still continues. The only question is whether it's worth it or not. That is, whether to forgive the infidelity of the second half.
Tell or not
Faced with betrayal, a person wants to find comfort and solace in other people. Usually these are close friends, relatives, the most dear people. Of course, all of them will say in one voice, how could he, what a bastard, quit, never come back, and so on. But this is your relationship and your feelings. Not always such advice and support are beneficial.
Perhaps the right decision will be easier to make when left alone.
Splash your emotions
This is a very important point. It is necessary to throw out all the negativity that has accumulated inside due to betrayal.
Of course, if there are thoughts that the relationship is not over, it is not worth throwing insults at the address of the traitor or the traitor. But breaking photo frames, tearing donated clothes, breaking souvenirs is very possible.
Allow yourself to be angry. If the anger remains inside, it will continue to accumulate. And all this will result in serious psychological problems.
By throwing out all the negativity, you will free your head to make reasonable, rational and balanced decisions.
Decide what YOU want
A change has occurred. It can no longer be deleted. But think about whether you want to continue the relationship with this person.
Such a question is relevant if the infidel himself has realized his mistake, is ready to start all over again, asks for forgiveness and shows strong feelings. But if you realize that you can’t survive and forgive betrayal, it’s better to break off the relationship right away. Overpower yourself, suffer, but delete a person from your life.
When you definitely shouldn't renew a relationship
There are several situations when it is categorically not worth forgiving and trying to build relationships anew:
- a person tries to accuse you of his own infidelity;
- you are being manipulated;
- do not admit guilt;
- put pressure on pity;
- The infidel makes himself the victim of this situation.
Having changed, a person, in an attempt to return his soul mate, begins to put pressure on pity, asks to save everything for the sake of a child or something else. It is strange, because at the moment of betrayal, these factors did not stop him.
When a relationship can be saved
There are 3 conditions that make it possible to save a relationship despite cheating. This is:
- time;
- love;
- introspection.
It takes time. For some it takes a few weeks, for others a month, and for some a whole year. Take a break from the relationship. This is the time for introspection. It is necessary to understand the reasons that led to the betrayal. Perhaps you yourself are partially to blame for this, pushing you to such a step.
And, of course, after a betrayal, you can return to your soulmate only on the condition that you really love each other. There can be no forgiveness without love. And that's a fact.
